September 27, 2021

Life Check

Life check.


Am alive-- am thriving--

Not sure why, but that's enough to send

This guy into another spiral.


More episodes will follow-- I have a lot I need to catch up on

Loads of completed fully planned episodes

I've been too obsessive over to let go of.

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Just ranting honestly

I have other episodes planned, I announce them

I don't have anything scripted for this episode it's just

Completely off the handle.

I am sorry I haven't been making as many episodes, I've been

More than a bit preoccupied, so keep that in mind

If you want to cancel me-- it's okay--

I have plans anyway.

That's the documentary on the sochi olympics that mentions testosterone therapy

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School House Mock? Too much? Not enough?


These bills are killing trans kids and no one seems to think about it that way. 


Protect the children? Whose children? Where? What? When? Why? How?

How about let's stop selling and killing kids at the border first.

Republicans seem to focus on clickbait topics and turn them into policy, which is what they're always blaming us for. Meanwhile back at the ranch, real trans people are really suffering.


Trust trans kids. Believe trans kids. Stop doubting, stop questioning, stop harassing trans youth.


We can't protect them from everything, but these bills need to go. If any of this shit sticks on the fan, it will blow into other areas. The transphobia will snowball.

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Talk about a friendly goodbye.

"Mean"? Does that really cut it?

Does "mean" hold up against all that ignorance?

I've about had it with Ru Paul and I think it's time the empire started to collapse on itself. Ru Paul's ego is old, fat and bloated--if you don't mind me saying so.

Fat. A word for excess adipose tissue. Something Ru Paul would have, if he didn't look like he had weekly plastic surgery appointments to suck the fat out of every crevice of his body. He would take that as a compliment, certainly!

Gottmik as the first trans contestant? Might as well have a headline that says "Go fuck yourself, trans history!"

Anyway here's all my notes

utica roast outline



hello, I dunno if I'm becky anymore

But I'm sure as hell still mad about it.

Utica's roast was one of the more revealing parts of the show.

Exposed underlying sentiments long encouraged in the show

Season 2 is a great example of virulent fatphobia scripted by Ru Paul himself into the show

--Raven benefits from her real-time roast of mystique during the food challenge. Her jokes about mystique in the interview clips are at least as mean as Utica's roast material. Except-- no roast in sight. Just another contestant on the show.

--they made them eat brains and all sorts of weird stuff that the other queens found disgusting, so that when mystique won first by a large margin (because it was a speed-eating competition!!!) She was double standard punished for both finishing first and finishing first while eating what the other queens treated as such a disgusting array of foods. Mystique was both setup to win, and setup to be shamed for winning.

Season 9 Sasha Velour, Valentina and Eureka have a confrontation

--Eureka is edited as the loud angry fat person bullying the thin people with eating disorders

--Eureka's own experience with eating disorders is completely edited out.

--There is a clip where Sasha begins to apologize to Eureka and her word is clipped mid-sound. Sounds edited, highly suspicious. Perhaps Sasha velour was acknowledging Eureka's truth, and the show edited it out?

--Eureka recieves the villain edit in season 9 and 10 both. When she talks about her serious injury, and the struggles involved in healing from it-- she is treated as someone grasping at straws for sympathy as some sort of advantage in the competition. This is pretty common in the show, but generally pits real vulnerability as not just weakness, but manipulative intent.

--At least three contestants come forth talking about their issues with eating disoders, and none of the fat contestants are ever interviewed about their issues with body image and food. I have a hard time believing Eureka didn't talk about eating disorders.

Fast forward through Nina West, who is labeled as a plus sized without being plus sized. She is a broad, full sized adult man who doesn't try to become an unhealthy size or weight. She is treated as fat, and has self-labeled as such. She also happens to play devil's advocate whenever possible, "diffusing the situation", "putting out fires" aka BEING A HUGE WET BLANKET.

tbh after this recent footage fuck Nina West.

Silky Nutmeg Ganache also recieved a vicious villain edit in the show. I believe she is a huge diva in real life, but I also fail to understand how this is a disadvantage on the show. In all previous seasons-- the biggest diva wins. Unless she is quite literally the biggest, largest diva.

Kim Chi was robbed. Multiple times. Her song "fat femme and asian" not only puts her in a box, but fails to make it a box anyone would want to open. For a queen with such tremendous artistic talent and emotional depth, I feel that "fat femme and asian" is more than a bit reductive. It definitely hasn't aged well, given America's epidemic of asian violence.

Now we arrive to Utica. I'm sure we missed some other plus girls on the show, but I just wanted to make this about Utica TBH. I would love to have a whole separate episode about fatphobia in all the seasons of ru paul, but I needed to give you some history in case you weren't aware or hadn't seen the later seasons.

Utica starts the episode by pandering for compliments about her lipsync. She clearly intends for people to congratulate her for sending Tina Burner home, and for them to say her lipsync was amazing. It wasn't, so they didn't.

She then writes her jokes, which apparently are so bad that Rose even said something in her cutaway interview that she thought they were insensitive at best. She goes to rehearsal, she starts delivering her material

Her first joke is good, she tells her lion king joke. It flops, Michelle critiques-- the way she would with any other queen. Utica responds by fat shaming her, ignoring and insulting her critique. She then tells the Nina West "whale" joke. Doesn't even make a Dory reference (comedy crime no.1)

Loni Love laughs, because the jokes was horribly fatphobic.

Utica laughs at the whale laughing at the whale joke

Utica drives it to the next level by asking if she's triggered, when she stops laughing--

She stops laughing because she realizes this person is not respecting anything she is saying or doing, so she stop feeding the troll.

The troll keeps whacking. Loni Love, to me, seems to retreat.

Michelle steps in, says its very mean, very harsh, not good.

Utica laughs, rolls her eyes, seems to think to herself "well then the right people will love it"

"I think this is funny, everyone else will think it's funny to"

She literally says later in the dressing room, after the rehearsal--

"If I'm having fun, they will too!"


Utica performs every joke as-was in the rehearsal. No edits, nothing changed whatsoever. Well, except that the roast has more jokes. And They’re all worse, somehow.

She smiles and enjoys the whole thing start to finish regardless of what her response was.

Her jokes to Heidi were racist, IMO.

I believe that the secret to Utica's offensive humor was that to her, it was very very funny.

To many other people on twitter and reddit, they also loved it. They also thought it was all very very funny.

In order for those jokes to have any punch, any joke, any humor whatsoever-- you have to fill in the gaps. You have to imply. You have to make implications.

You have to have a series of stereotypes that you find less-than, that you automatically assume about people. Those seterotypes, those implications, those biases you find hilarious are all biases. Those are not proven. Those are assumed negative attributes, that you deem unseemly, that you don't associate yourself with. That you go ahead and assume about someone else, that you dont' know. It's bullshit, It's called being a fucking bigot.

If you thought any of Utica's jokes were funny, it's because of those implications. I believe that if you were the wrong kind of folk, you could definitely enjoy various racist implications insinuiated by Utica's material.

No one even mentioned it. The only people I've seen talking about it online are talking about it in other countries, outside of America. Fuck America TBH

Plenty of other queens made offensive jokes with fatphobic material. The implications of their jokes were nothing like Utica's. Gotmikk's joke about Ross coming when the pizza is delivered in a porno implies literally nothing about Ross's lifestyle or character other than a funny joke about loving pizza abstractly. Calling Kandy a roast is also kind of implying that she is delicious.

Loni Love heckles her that she is bombing and laughs. The whole panel laughs with her.

Ru flips her off twice while laughing and smiling

They get their promo shot for the season

The golden meme from Season 13

Utica is proud of her performance, but seems to understand that she wasn't going to be judged well.

She is very proud and at ease leaving the studio. It is, by all definitions, a completely normal exit interview.

She leaves on a high note, Ru Says she looks amazing, and that she was funny sometimes, but other times too mean.

She says she loves her and that she should sashay.

I think she put Symone in the bottom to make sure that Utica was sent home, but perhaps Symone was only in the bottom for her poor performance. Perhaps I'm being way too optimistic

If Olivia had bombed, Utica very well may have survived another day.

Utica's ractist undertones went completely unchecked.

Ru paul laughed his ass off at the whole thing

I guarantee you she will be back for All stars

Yet another chapter in a long history of Ru Paul's Drag Race promoting and benefiting from fatphobia, and fatphobic sentiment.

Arguable Lawrence Chaney is a winner only because of his willingness to play the part.

I shouldn't have to have personal experience as a fat person to be able to see the various contemptuous intents presenting in this episode, and past episodes. Same as racism, it is plain to see. Sexism, plain to see.


Again, why is it that on a show that claims to uplift and represent the queer community-- Ru is taking credit for discovering, accepting and adapting trans people for the show, all while silencing and editing out all previous trans contestants. Gottmik is just another chapter in a long history of transgender drag queens. Many previous contestants on the show have come out as transgender, and many previous contestants on the show have identified as nonbinary-- even Gigi Goode who almost won. Why wasn't the gentlemen--start your engines line changed for that season? What about gottmik makes it "racers" instead of gentlemen?? Gottmik identifies as male, he uses he/him pronouns, he just happens to be transgender.

Why. Is. This. The. Season. It. Becomes. Racers.

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Whoa there Joey Gugliemelli... whoa. Controversy! Drama! HBO special series Bulk!!!! Maybe a bit too good of a drag queen...? You give love a bad name, Joey! Becky is reeling, in more than one way. Only Ru Paul gets under my skin this much, I swear to hell. 


I love love loved improvising my own version of talking heads naive melody. fitting.

Also evil woman!!

I missed making the podcast! more to come during the pandemic, no worries!

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Hey Everybody! I love the L Word SOOOOO MUCH. The original series is so important to baby Becky. Generation Q is getting me really excited and I really hope they deliver more serious drama for many more seasons!!!


Where the hell is Max? More importantly, where the hell is Max's baby!?!?!

Why is Bette a cheater, and Tina isn't?!

Is Jenny really dead!?!? Was she murdered ? Was it suicide? 

I think Nikki did it TBH she was so weird

My thoughts on the theme song are in the episode...

My version of the theme song is in the episode...

LMFAO there is no theme song to Generation Q because they got burned so bad they stopped having a theme song entirely.

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This music series is a mix of the hits of 2019, and then a few things I found in 2019, which is not necessarily the same as them being from 2019. Oops, oh well! It’s a killer playlist, features Lil Nas X, MUNA, King Princess, Christine and the Queens, Litany, Verzache, Kylie Minogue, Charlie XCX.

If you're wondering where Halsey, Troye Sivan, and everyone else is, it's because they are on the old playlists OR they are on an upcoming playlist. Message me if you need to be certain that I know who you know. Check us out on facebook and twitter @beckywtghmai

I do not go too much into detail with the artists, they are all pretty new. I forgot to mention that Lil Nas X’s real name is Montero Lamar Hill, which is gorgeous. Damn. Opportunity missed. I really should stop rushing the music series. Honestly? The playlist is what I spend the most time on. It’s very good, here is a link!

Life's not fair I guess. I also kinda don't think she is one. I think Maya whatsername is for sure but like--JK Rowling!?! The creator of my childhood? I can't with this, yo. I can't. I don't? I don't! Hmmm


I don't understand. Honestly the episode comes to zero conclusions. I bamble. I ramble. I bullshit and I stumble. I confuse myself often.

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Hey Everybody! Becky here with another episode of Mad About It, featuring special guest Zac!They are a friend of mine from high school that I haven’t seen or spoken with SINCE THEN! It’s nuts! It’s also kind of embarrassing, we catch up and talk at the same time. Honestly might be my favorite episode of the podcast yet. It’s a reunion, with a therapy session, a bit of comedy, and some seriously heartfelt advice mixed in throughout. OH—And it’s about how to survive the holiday season as a queer person in Trump country. We both have trumping parents, and it’s a bit different to be queer and be related to proud-straights. I overshare intensely. All of it is a bit intense. I love it. follow us on facebook and twitter  @beckywtghmai

November 6, 2019


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Becky breaks down Transtrenders and other myths and monsters. Spoiler alert--nobody is trendy. Except for like, the super trendy people I guess. There are so many stylish and trendy trans folk. But-- their gender isn't the trendy part. 

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